Thursday, August 23, 2007

Just Plain Stupid

I wasn't going to post anything about Michael Vick, but after reading a couple of news reports on how our beloved NAACP is divided on how they feel about his case, I decided to add my 2 cents.

Michael Vick is a grown ass man. He knew what he was doing. No one forced him to do whatever he did concerning his case. I do not understand why so many professional athletes (black athletes) cannot leave the past in the past. It is one thing to support your old neighborhood in a positive way.. Such as speaking at schools, using your new found money to uplift your old community and starting programs to keep our youth from ending up a statistic in this country's broken judicial system.

But to continue to to do the things you used to do with your "boys" is just plain stupid. Why would you keep negative influences around you when you have broken through the glass ceiling in America? You can keep your status in the hood without actually having to keep it "hood". Magic Johnson has kept it "hood", Stephon Marbury has kept it "hood", Russell Simons has kept it "hood", Will Smith has kept it "hood", just to name a few of the big name stars that has kept their status in our communities without jeopardizing their careers. In my opinion Mike Vick is stupid.

You can tell the quality of people he had around him by looking at how long it took his "boys" to snitch. These guys were supposed to be life long Vick partners. They were in his entourage, his inner circle, his "best friends". But as we all know now it only took days for them to let their true colors shine. As soon as the Feds looked at them wrong, they fell over like dominoes. You cannot leave a thief alone in a room with a million dollars, and that is what Vick did. He trusted the wrong people. But of course he knew how these guys were, he had to. I guess he thought he was "keeping it real" with his homies.

Just plain Stupid.

He has lost everything just because he wanted to "keep it real". His freedom, his job, his career, and his credibility. Of course he still has his family, but we all know that family will turn on you quick too. So when those checks stop coming to some of his family members (we all know he was supporting probably half his family), we will see how long they stick with him.

So I am going to end this with a quote from Jemele Hill, who is an ESPN columnist. I could not have said this better myself..

I caution you not to make Vick a martyr. Do not applaud him for taking his comeuppance like some modern-day gangster. Do not blame others for Vick’s predicament when he alone should be held accountable for his actions.
“Let this historic unraveling be a wake-up call for the young, black men caught up in the same lifestyle that claimed Vick. Let his prison sentence send the message that a continued allegiance to street culture successfully keeps young, black men frighteningly behind in American society

Tuesday, August 21, 2007

Just another night out on the town

This past Saturday my friend and I were hanging out around Dallas. We stopped at a corner store to pick up some beer and on the way out we noticed that this young lady was having car problems. So being the gentlemen that we are, we offered our assistance. We soon deduced that she needed a jump because she had a weak battery. We jumped her off, and my boy decided to lay his mack game down. (He can do that because he is single). I proceeded to sit in his car bumping the radio, because I am happily married, and I don't need anymore drama in my life. Well, after about 20 minutes he jumps in the driver's seat saying how he got the digits. Well no more was said about "Shorty" the rest of the evening and I forgot about the whole thing, that is until I received a text from him while I was at work Monday.

The text said "call at your lunch hour. I got to tell you something".

Well, 12:30 rolled around and I gave my man a call.

"What's happening Brah"

"Not a thang. U?"

"You got some words for me?"

"Yea. You remember Shorty we helped at the Quik Stop Saturday night?"

"Yea. Wus up?"

"I smashed that yesterday!"

Well I was at a loss of words at hearing this tid-bit of information.

Here is the problem(s) I have with this situation, and the reason I am putting my man's business on the world wide web.

1. We met this chick on Saturday evening.

2. I got the call Monday that they had sex.

3. Which means the deed had to go down on Sunday.

4. That is not even 12 hours to get to know each other.

5. Both participants are in their mid to late 30's.

6. "Shorty" has a teenage daughter.

7. My man has a teenage son.

Now who should have known better out of the 2 consenting adults?

My man is a single parent. He is not in a relationship, so he can basically see whomever he wants.

But even he told me he was surprised at how quick he laid ole girl down. He also told me that he did not plan on talking to "shorty" again because she scared the hell out of him. The question is.. Then why did he do it? He is like any red-blooded male... We would hump a dead piece of wood if you put some hair around the hole.We do not want to wait 6 months for sex, but we don't want it in 6 minutes either. But he is also like any red-blooded male in the fact that any decent looking woman with a nice ass and nice tits is our biggest weakness. I can't be mad at him because if I were single, I can pretty much guarantee that I would have did the same 12 hour thing too, if not a couple of hours sooner. So am I a hypocrite?

Now on to "Shorty". I do not know anything about this woman (and it is obvious that my man doesn't either) so I cannot say too much about her. But.... Men... Well I can only speak for myself now, do not respect a woman that gives it up on the first date. Well, in this case the first 12 hours. We all want a woman in the streets and a freak in the bedroom, but at least give us a chance to get to know the woman before we see the freak. We expect a woman to be a woman at all times. I know this is gonna sound double-standard, but most men do not want an easy woman. If I got it in this short amount of time, what makes me so special? How many other guys have did the same thing? We expect a woman to respect herself and her body(unless she is turning tricks, and that is something totally different). We like the thrill of the hunt. We like to work up a sweat before we sit down to eat. (No Pun Intended) Make us work for your love and then make us work some more. If we see that you respect yourself then you can bet that we will respect you too.

Now in my opinion, both my man, and "Shorty" should have known better. They both have kids that they need to set an example for. They both have to be around for their kids for the next couple of decades, and with AIDS running rampant in our communities, they can't afford to take any chances with their lives. They are both old enough to know that casual sex can be deadly.

But here is my conflict with this whole situation....

Would I have followed my own advice 10 years ago? Even if I was single now? I cannot begin to count how many one nite stands I have had. Most of them, if the female were to come up to me and slap me in the face, I would not know who she was. And I cannot say honestly that I used a condom all the time. So why do we (men and women) do what we do? I wish I had the answer to that. If I did I would be an instant Billionaire. So who is more to blame here?

My man, or "Shorty"?

Saturday, August 18, 2007

Where did all the money go?

I was cruising the news sites tonight and I came across an article that was very disturbing to me. It seems that since Hurricane Katrina, New Orleans homeless population has doubled.
Now I could have sworn that billions of dollars from around the world was donated to help the people of the gulf coast get back on their feet. So where the hell did all the money go?

Where did all the movie stars money go? What about all the telethons and church donations, and how can we forget all the federal money (that came out of our taxes) go? How can this be explained? Didn't they have a Mardi Gras down there this year? Was I dreaming about the Saints almost making it to the Superbowl? I know the Essence festival was there, because my Aunt and Uncle went. So who is keeping tabs on all the money that should have been generated by all these events?

The article, which is on MSNBC.COM went on to say that there are an estimated 80,000 abandoned buildings and houses in New Orleans. 80,000! It doesn't mention the rest of the Gulf Coast, they never do, but I can't imagine what it is like in coastal Mississippi and Alabama. So did all that money just disappear? When everyone was out begging for Americans to help the people of the gulf coast, all you could hear was, "these people need help... Please help the poor people in the aftermath of the worst storm in decades". The poor "black" people were all over the news, Spike Lee jumped on the band wagon and made a movie, Angelina Jolie bought a house in the French Quarter, Anderson Cooper was down there every weekend and the city's house nigga Mayor was in Washington every other week begging for more of our tax dollars. (No that is not a misprint... I did call him a house nigga. I am still in shock this man still has a job.) During all this "giving" the homeless population just happened to DOUBLE. Who can explain this to me?

Now I know there were homeless people down there before Katrina. I also understand that some people simply like living on the streets. I know that some people just go through a string of bad luck and that is where they end up. There are a lot of mentally disturbed people that are abandoned by their family and community that end up homeless. But this article mentioned the fact that the majority of the homeless in New Orleans, (again no mention of the rest of the Gulf Coast) are people that went down there looking for work. Now is it just me or does this sound a little strange? How can someone go to a place that is in dire need of people to help rebuild and do the jobs that were abandoned by people fleeing for their lives, end up jobless and homeless?

You mean to tell me that there are no houses to be built, no schools to renovate, no trash that needs to be collected, no doctors to care for the sick, no nurses, no taxi drivers, no cooks, no mechanics, ...nothing but a bunch of crooked ass politicians that are planning the next big event in New Orleans to fleece more of our money, that will never make it to the people that really need it? How can this be, when America opened up it's hearts and wallets to help the poor and disenfranchised people of the Gulf Coast? Who decides who needs help and who doesn't? Wasn't that money supposed to help ALL the people that needed it? Where are the FEMA checks for these people? How can there be 80,000 abandoned buildings and houses in the city 2 years after the storm? What the hell is Mr. Nagin doing down there? Does that Blanco woman still have a job? I don't remember if the people down there voted her ass out of office or not. If they didn't they damn sure should have.

I just don't understand it. Hundreds, perhaps thousands of children and elderly living in abandoned or condemned buildings. This in a country where millions of people will spend millions of dollars a year on bullshit that we do not even need. Yes I said "WE". Americans need to get our priorities straight. How can we invade a country to "liberate" a nation of people, when we have our own nation of people right here just minutes away from our Suburban lives, that have no homes and no way to support themselves?

Things that make you go hmmmm....

Wednesday, August 15, 2007

Am I a good man?

I know I am going to catch hell from the women that read my blog (especially my beautiful wife)over this particular subject... but what the hell. This has been on my mind for a minute now so I decided to vent a little bit. Whatever comes, comes.

I hear all the time about how there are no good men left. Especially in the black community. I do not understand that statement. What exactly are the women that make this statement looking for? Is a good man one that makes a ton of money and lavishes his woman with expensive things? Or is a good man one that works hard, provides for his family and protects his house even though he does not and probably never will have a lot of money? Or maybe a good man to some is one with 3 kids by 3 different women, no job, and living in his mothers basement? Or maybe a good man is one of these "hood niggas", you know the type, one of those hard, on the corner, hustling types? So what constitutes a good man in todays' society?

I can only speak for myself when I say this but, I consider myself a damn good man. I go to a job that is beneath my intellect everyday because for now that is what is paying my bills. I consider myself to be a good husband, but you have to ask the Mrs's that question. I am also a good son to my Mother and hopefully to my Pops, I am a good nephew to my Aunties and Uncles, and a good uncle to my nieces and nephews, a good grandson and I consider myself a good friend to all of my boys and to the females that I am cool with. (Yes I have plutonic female friends with no strings attached.) So do I fit the bill?

I don't smoke, I don't drink to get drunk, and I do not hang in clubs every weekend. I am not a womanizer even though I have been known to flirt a little, which I am currently in rehab for. Hey if it works for the rich and famous why can't I go to club med for a weekend? I am not doing anything illegal and I have never been to jail. In my humble opinion I am a good man.

So what does the modern day woman want?




Or just sex?

Or is it all of the above, whatever the cost?

Or is the saying "I can do bad by myself", the new anthem for todays women?

Why is it when a woman gets used and abused by a no good little boy, all men in her immediate vicinity get the blame? If you meet a man on the creep, what makes you think that his creeping will stop with you? If you meet a man with 15 different babies mommas, why would you want to be number 16? If you meet a man with no goals and ambitions, who is content on living off what you make and loves to play XBox with his boys, why would he change for you? What makes you so special? When did it become cool to be someones babies mamma instead of someones wife?

But on the other hand, why am I a good man only when I buy flowers, or diamonds, or paying for expensive resturaurants? Am I not a good man the times when my money is shorter than a midget on his knees? Am I not a good man when I try to confide in you my deepest feelings and desires? Or do you consider that weak? Do you consider a man weak when he admits his faults and tries to change for the better? Or is a man strong when he bottles everything up and explodes at a time that you consider inappropiate?

What is a good man?

Would you consider me one?

Thursday, August 9, 2007

It is going to snow tonight.....

I must be coming down with a summer cold or something. You know the worst kind of cold, the kind of cold where you cannot get out of bed. The kind of cold where it is 100 degrees outside, but you are bundled up in your bed with the heat on. That kind of cold. Why do I feel like this, you may ask? Well.... I actually agree with your president about something. Yeah I said it!! I agree with Jr.

There is absolutely no way that our gas taxes should be raised to get the money to repair our old and outdated infrastructure. That money should come from the taxes we already have to pay. (Especially since we have to give up our first born for a tank of gas now anyway).The powers that be had to know before that tragedy in Minnesota that bridge was on the verge of falling apart. They have to know about the rest of our old and outdated bridges. It is a damn shame that people have to die in order for our so called "leaders" to realize that they are failing in the job that we have given them.

Jr. said it right when he said earlier today: (and I quote) "Before we raise taxes, which could affect economic growth, I would strongly urge the Congress to examine how they set priorities.”
He actually said that. I must admit I was at a loss of words to hear Jr. say something that made sense, and something that the American People have been saying for decades.

But on the other hand....

The president said that congress should 'examine their priorities'. What?! This is coming from a man that has poured almost a trillion dollars into the lost cause that is Irag? The man that started his job with a a decent surplus, and in 6 years has turned it into a deficient that my great- great- great -great grand kids will have to pay back? This is coming from a man that pardoned a crook just because he thought that the recommended sentence was too harsh? The same man that won't even consider pardoning the two border patrol agents that went to prison for doing their jobs?

Congress should examine their priorities. Yes they should. There is no getting around that. But George Bush is not the right man to fix his mouth to say those words to anybody. Not with all the mistakes and downright stupid decisions his administration has made since 2002. Not with all the lives and money that has been lost in Iraq. Not with all the tax breaks that his rich cronies have received. And not with all the lies and scandals that have rocked the White House since he swore to UPHOLD and DEFEND the constitution of the United States of America.

So maybe I really don't agree with Jr. at all.

Monday, August 6, 2007

Another Slap in the Face

My man the Field Negro blogged about this on his site; so, Field if you are reading this, I hope that you don't get offended by me coming behind you with my thoughts. In saying that please let me continue with my 2 cents about this subject.

What makes the story about a few black women that choose to date white men a CNN headline? Does anyone really care? I could care less who anyone chooses to find love with. Every single man or woman has a right to be happy and to feel loved. If a certain person finds love outside their race or with the same sex I am more than happy for them. To find anyone to love you unconditionally is hard as hell, so if you find it you should be congratulated. But who a person finds love with is not national news.

What pisses me off about this is the way CNN put it out there. They made it seem that no black woman could find any black man that was not incarcerated or that could support them. That is bullshit. There are millions of black men in this country that are doing the damn thing legally. Yours truly is one of the millions. Every one of my boys can be added into that equation also. So what the hell is CNN trying to say?

If you are a person that, lets say... lives in Iowa or New Hampshire that has no contact with any black people at all and you read this article on, what would you think? I know the first thing that would come to my mind is... "If black women do not trust black men enough to have a relationship with them, what I see on the news all day everyday must be true. If anyone knows how a black man is, it should be a black woman. So why should I trust them to be anything but thugs and drug dealers?" If I am wrong, please someone that knows more than me put a comment on this post. If you are a black man struggling to do the right thing in this country, this article should offend you. As I said before I don't care if you are dating or married to a male, green and purple haired wildebeest, you should be offended by the implication that we, (American Black Men) are not even good enough for our own women.

It just proves what I said in an earlier post I made about the American media. Black Men never get a fair shake when it comes to the media. We never get our just dues. We are always guilty until proven innocent, and then we are still looked upon as being guilty. The positive contributions that we make everyday goes overlooked, but one negative thing that one black man in a country of 33 million black people does will be turned against all of us as a whole. It makes me sick and from what I see the media is starting to turn our own women against us.

CNN made sure to point out that 1 in 7 seven black men are in prison and about how we are under achieving in corporate America. Is it our fault that the deck is and always has been stacked against us? What do we have to do to get a fair trial in this damn country? How come there hasn't been an article about the millions of white women that date black men? There are more of them than the other way around believe me.

Any and every thing that a black man does that main stream white America does not agree with gets turned into a national event. It is unfair and bigoted. We have to work 3 times as hard as any other racial group in this country to achieve anything, but we get the blame for everything that is wrong here. So what happened to all men are created equal? When we will we be looked upon as men, instead of "BLACK" men? I wish someone could answer that, so my blood pressure won't shoot threw the roof every time I see something that I know is a ploy to demean and undermine our worth as men in this country.