This past Saturday my friend and I were hanging out around Dallas. We stopped at a corner store to pick up some beer and on the way out we noticed that this young lady was having car problems. So being the gentlemen that we are, we offered our assistance. We soon deduced that she needed a jump because she had a weak battery. We jumped her off, and my boy decided to lay his mack game down. (He can do that because he is single). I proceeded to sit in his car bumping the radio, because I am happily married, and I don't need anymore drama in my life. Well, after about 20 minutes he jumps in the driver's seat saying how he got the digits. Well no more was said about "Shorty" the rest of the evening and I forgot about the whole thing, that is until I received a text from him while I was at work Monday.
The text said "call at your lunch hour. I got to tell you something".
Well, 12:30 rolled around and I gave my man a call.
"What's happening Brah"
"Not a thang. U?"
"You got some words for me?"
"Yea. You remember Shorty we helped at the Quik Stop Saturday night?"
"Yea. Wus up?"
"I smashed that yesterday!"
Well I was at a loss of words at hearing this tid-bit of information.
Here is the problem(s) I have with this situation, and the reason I am putting my man's business on the world wide web.
1. We met this chick on Saturday evening.
2. I got the call Monday that they had sex.
3. Which means the deed had to go down on Sunday.
4. That is not even 12 hours to get to know each other.
5. Both participants are in their mid to late 30's.
6. "Shorty" has a teenage daughter.
7. My man has a teenage son.
Now who should have known better out of the 2 consenting adults?
My man is a single parent. He is not in a relationship, so he can basically see whomever he wants.
But even he told me he was surprised at how quick he laid ole girl down. He also told me that he did not plan on talking to "shorty" again because she scared the hell out of him. The question is.. Then why did he do it? He is like any red-blooded male... We would hump a dead piece of wood if you put some hair around the hole.We do not want to wait 6 months for sex, but we don't want it in 6 minutes either. But he is also like any red-blooded male in the fact that any decent looking woman with a nice ass and nice tits is our biggest weakness. I can't be mad at him because if I were single, I can pretty much guarantee that I would have did the same 12 hour thing too, if not a couple of hours sooner. So am I a hypocrite?
Now on to "Shorty". I do not know anything about this woman (and it is obvious that my man doesn't either) so I cannot say too much about her. But.... Men... Well I can only speak for myself now, do not respect a woman that gives it up on the first date. Well, in this case the first 12 hours. We all want a woman in the streets and a freak in the bedroom, but at least give us a chance to get to know the woman before we see the freak. We expect a woman to be a woman at all times. I know this is gonna sound double-standard, but most men do not want an easy woman. If I got it in this short amount of time, what makes me so special? How many other guys have did the same thing? We expect a woman to respect herself and her body(unless she is turning tricks, and that is something totally different). We like the thrill of the hunt. We like to work up a sweat before we sit down to eat. (No Pun Intended) Make us work for your love and then make us work some more. If we see that you respect yourself then you can bet that we will respect you too.
Now in my opinion, both my man, and "Shorty" should have known better. They both have kids that they need to set an example for. They both have to be around for their kids for the next couple of decades, and with AIDS running rampant in our communities, they can't afford to take any chances with their lives. They are both old enough to know that casual sex can be deadly.
But here is my conflict with this whole situation....
Would I have followed my own advice 10 years ago? Even if I was single now? I cannot begin to count how many one nite stands I have had. Most of them, if the female were to come up to me and slap me in the face, I would not know who she was. And I cannot say honestly that I used a condom all the time. So why do we (men and women) do what we do? I wish I had the answer to that. If I did I would be an instant Billionaire. So who is more to blame here?
My man, or "Shorty"?