Monday, April 21, 2008
I can take a bite of your candy.... But if you take a bite of mine, I have to throw it away
On my 40 minute commute home from work every afternoon, I listen to the Michael Baisden show. Today's topic was why do people cheat on their significant others.
Well I have an opinion on why men cheat. This is only my opinion, so to all the ladies that read my blog, please keep your comments clean. LOL.
Anyway, here is my two cents.
I think that men cheat on their wife's, fiance's and girlfriends (does a girlfriend that you have not really made a commitment to count?) because they are not happy at home. I believe that if a man is truly satisfied at home he will not go outside his home. The old saying that a man will be a man is bullshit. If a man loves his family,his wife,babies mama or whatever, and she is doing everything that she was doing in the very beginning of the relationship, then her man will not cheat.
He might be tempted, believe me, we do get tempted, but when it comes time to do the do, a picture of his family will pop up in his mind and he will not do it.
Believe me,I have been there and done that.
But the key is that the man has to be SATISFIED.
In all counts.
That means mentally, physically, sexually and all the other "ly's" that constitute a healthy relationship.
If one of the above mentioned "ly's" are missing, then, Houston we have a problem.
No pun intended here, but men ARE just like Dogs.
If you feed and water a dog everyday, that dog will be at your beck and call.
But if you stop watering your dog, then your dog will go next door and quench his thirst. He might come back after drinking his fill to get his kibbles and bits from you, but you best believe that he is getting his water elsewhere.
In order to keep a man, a woman has to do the same things she did to get her man. And vice verse of course.
As to why a woman cheats, I believe that women cheat for pretty much the same reasons. They are not satisfied. But women tend to stick with their main dish for a little longer than we do. A woman will drop hints, and sometimes a woman will be straight up about what she needs her man to do. And if her hints are ignored, then again... Houston we have a problem.
When a woman cheats it is always a last resort. She is fed up, so she does not think about the consequences. She just goes out and does it. But she already knows who she is going to cheat with, all it takes for a man is a warm body and a heartbeat. A woman plans her affairs, a man takes whomever he can get first.
So what does it take to keep our marriages in grade A condition?
Communication,Paying attention to one another, and doing and saying the things you said and done while you were dating.
So there you have it.
Relationship 101 by your man Dirty Red.