Thursday, June 18, 2009
Fools fall in Love just like everybody else
I have a friend that just separated from his wife of 4 years.
He has 1 daughter by her and he is step-father to her daughter from a previous sperm doner.
Everybody that knows this dude told him not to marry this chick, but he followed his heart and well, here he is 4 years later.
I am not saying she is a bad woman, I only know what he tells me about her. But I also know that there are two sides to everything.
All I am saying is that she was/is bad for him.
He was cheating with her when he was married to his first wife, who by the way was a good woman.
The only reason he got caught was because the jump-off called his wife while he was going home after a night with her, and told his wife to smell his dick when he got home and to call her back to let her know how her pussy smelled.
So as you can guess, that pretty much ended his first marriage.
Well about a year later he surprised all of us with the news that he married his jump-off.
Shit has been bad for him every since.
He has caught 3 cases for domestic violence, even though according to him, (like I said there are two sides to everything)the only thing he has ever done to her was slam her down on the bed to get her off of him.
He has lost 4 good paying jobs because his drama at home leaked over into his jobs.
He was diagnosed with diabetes,high blood pressure, high cholesterol, and his Kidneys recently failed forcing him to have to be put on dialysis.
And now that he is at his worst financially, mentally and health wise, what does she do?
She leaves him, does not tell him where she is living because she is 'afraid for her safety' and at the recent child support hearing, she hits him in the head for $600 a month.
There is a good thing that has came about during this time though, he has dedicated his live to God and he is know studying to be a minister.
But here is the kicker....
He is still trying to make it work.
The court mandated counseling before the divorce can be finalized and he is like a school boy at recess at the opportunity to try to prove that he can still be a good husband to her.
He told me yesterday that they went out on a date, which he paid for,went to a semi expensive restaurant, which he paid for, got a Hotel room, which he paid for, and at the end of the night he gave her some money to wash clothes and to get gas so she can go to her part time job.
She did all this, but he still does not know where she is living with his daughters because she still 'fears for her safety' when she is alone with him.
He told me that if the counseling sessions go well, he will drop the divorce proceedings.
All I could do was shake my head in wonder and be like how much pain and heartbreak can a person endure for love?
Me and my wife have our typical marriage life problems, but this shit here.....
That is my mans and all and I will support him no matter what, but to me he is a damn fool.
What say you?