Wednesday, October 28, 2009
Chivarly is dead and the "Independent Woman" killed him
This morning on my normal long ass drive to work I was channel surfing the radio(I got tired of paying for satellite radio) and the dial happened to land on the Steve Harvey Morning Show. I missed most of the conversation, but I did catch the blunt of it.
Mr. Harvey was having a "phone blast" with his listeners about "independent women". I have an opinion about so called "independent woman", and the "independent women" that read my lil 'ole blog ain't gonna like it. But oh well, it is what it is.
Hmmmm,where do I start?
Well, let's start by me asking a question....
What is the definition of an Independent Woman?
If I ask a woman, I will get the 'a woman that don't need a man for anything' definition. I will get the, 'I pay my own rent, my own car note, I can get my own nails and hair done. There is nothing a man can do for me that I can't and don't do for myself.'
If I ask a man I will get the Loud mouth bitch or she must be a dyke, definition.
Now were do I stand on this issue?
I think that the whole "independent woman" thing is a bunch of bullshit.
But first let me say that I do not think that a woman that handles her business is a bitch or a dyke. I think she is a woman that handles her business in a male dominated world. She should be congratulated and appreciated. Any man that calls such a woman a bitch or a dyke or anything else that does not include her name, Miss, Mrs. or Ms, needs his insecure ass kicked.
Now on to the bullshit.
A woman that thinks that just because she is holding her life down financially without the help of a man, and thinks she does not need a man, is a gatdamn fool.
Yeah I said it.
Any man that chooses not to get involved with a woman that is holding it down financially, is an even bigger fool.
Men and women complete each other. Or in some cases women and women or men and men complete each other. We all need that "somebody" to hold, to kiss, to console or just somebody to let us cry on their shoulder if we need it.
We all need it.
I think that the problem is that people (women)equate being financially secure to being independent. People (women) think that just because they are doing the shit that men used to do back in our Grandparent's day, that somehow that puts them on level ground with men.
It is all bullshit.
Every woman needs and wants a man to open doors for them. They want a man that they can rely on to pick the kids up from daycare. They want a man they can call if they have a flat on the side of the road.They want a man to get up at 3 in the morning to go to the corner store for that late night pint of ice cream.
Every woman whether they admit it or not, desires and wants to be taken care of by a man.
It is what it is.
That is why God created Eve. He saw that man was alone and he made Eve as his companion.
It is ingrained in a mans DNA to provide, protect and take care of a woman. It is ingrained in a woman's DNA to want to be provided for, protected and taken care of by a man.
It is our society that came up with that "independent woman" label.
Now don't get me wrong, no man wants a lazy woman. No man wants a woman to rely on them for everything. I know I don't. I can not stand a woman that is afraid to sweat or break a nail. I figure that if I am able and willing to go out and cut the grass, then you should be able and willing to pull weeds out of the flower bed. I think that if I am able and willing to wash your car, then you should be ready and willing to vacuum out the inside and pick up all your empty McDonald wrappers.
But a man does need to feel needed. We all need to feel like we are the "King" of our respected castles.
If I feel that you 'can do bad all by yourself', then why the hell would I stick around?
If I constantly hear about how you are paying for this and buying that all by yourself, then that is exactly how you will find yourself,all by your damn self.
So I think that woman need to stop all the equality shit and accept the fact that Men and women complete each other. We would not be men or women without each other.
Unless of course you are a man that does not like women or a woman that does not like men.
But the same applies in either case.