Monday, July 26, 2010
The games Men play
I went through a lot of what most people would call "hazing".
I didn't consider it hazing, I just thought that it was what I had to do to get where I wanted to be.
As I was going through the higher degrees of my "fraternity", There was some shit that I just was not having.
During one phase I actually fought back. I made it worse for myself and I suffered for days afterward, but after I "walked those 40 miles", my brothers told me that I gained their respect more than the other members of my "cable-tow" that took the "hazing" with no complaint. They told me I showed exactly what becoming a MM really meant. The first thing that is taught to a candidate before you can even be considered to join is you have to be a man of good moral standing and fortitude.
You have to be a MAN, in other words you have to behave and carry yourself as a man does. There is only so far that you can push a man, before he lets you know that he won't be pushed anymore. My brothers told me that I demonstrated this and as the degrees kept coming, I was rewarded.
That is why I do not fault Dallas Cowboy's rookie Wide Receiver Dez Bryant for not carrying another grown man's equipment like he was a damn bus-boy. While it is true that he is a rookie and there are certain things that a rookie is supposed to do, demeaning yourself should not be one of them. I understand that rookies all go through some sort of "hazing", it is expected, but sometimes if you are a man who is sure of himself, there are certain things that your "manhood" will not allow you to do.
Some people will say that the boy was wrong, and he is a rookie so he has to make his bones and who does this young punk think he is and some veterans in the league will say that they had to go through it when they were rookies; so why shouldn't he and blah blah blah.
Well I can't disagree with none of that. But if this dude did not feel like he had to cater to the dude he might (and should) be replacing, then why should he?
I am sure that because this Kid broke the NFL's normal unwritten rule for rookies, he has painted a big target on his back. He will be watched and criticized more closely now than ever before. I am sure that he will have to accept some sort of hazing with no complaint, he is going to pay for that little bit of cockiness and arrogance, but I bet he has gained the respect of the other rookies and some of the veteran players by standing up and saying, 'I am a man damn it! Treat me as such."
And for that I ain't mad at him.