Wednesday, September 14, 2011

So what are you really saying dude?

When a White man says that he is not attracted to Black women; that he has never seen a Black woman that he would date or even have a quickie with; does he mean just what he is saying, or is there another meaning under what he said?

I ask this because a White dude told me that yesterday. And in his defense he named off several Black men we work with that don't date Black women either.

Well all I could do was just look at the dude and shake my head and be like...wo. okay...

What kind of response was I supposed to give?

I, for one like love women.

Black women, White women, Asian women, Hispanic women and if I ever saw any..Indian women.
There is nothing on this Green and Blue ball we live on that is more beautiful than a woman.

Of course I have my preference, but that does not change the fact that I Love women.

And I have always assumed that all straight men felt the same way I do. Apparently I was wrong.

But there was something in this dudes tone that told me he meant something else.

Instead of hearing 'I am not attracted to Black women'; alls I heard was 'I don't really like niggers. I am only talking to you because we work together and I need to keep my job.. If we didn't and I saw you out in the street on fire, I wouldn't piss on you to put you out.'

Now maybe my racial sensitivity meter is a little too sensitive; but that is the first thing that popped in my head.

I could be wrong....but.....

I don't think so.

I just don't see how any man can say that they are not attracted to a particular type of woman. We all have our preferences but...really?

I mean I prefer women with nice titties and nice asses..But if I saw a woman with small titties and a long back,  there would still be something about her that I would find attractive. Just the mere fact that she is a woman would do it.

But his dude? Really?

Not nan Black woman?  Not nan?
Not the pretty high yella gals we always see on T.V. even? I mean most white dudes I know would have told me that they don't like the "darkies", but Beyonce, Halle Berry or Rihanna? They might not take them home to maw-maw or paw-paw, but they would still hit it.

But this dude?

Really?

So what was he really saying?

I mean look at the pictures I posted...How could ANY man not find these women attractive?

12 comments:

Ankhesen Mié said...

He's saying he wouldn't mind a very private, completely secret booty call from a black woman.

And this:

Instead of hearing 'I am not attracted to Black women'; alls I heard was 'I don't really like niggers. I am only talking to you because we work together and I need to keep my job.. If we didn't and I saw you out in the street on fire, I wouldn't piss on you to put you out.'

*shrug* You heard correctly.

angelofdeath275 said...

Ankhesen Mié is correct. Your not overthinking it, nor too sensitive. Asshole even pulled out a variation of the "I HAVE A BLACK FRIEND IM NOT RACIST!!!!

Reggie said...

I like women.......I don't know what to say for this fool.

When I see an attractive woman, my body reacts. It is what it is.

Mr. I. M. BLACK said...

Sometime ago I posted this your blog with regard to the beauty of our women.I hope you will read it and give me your opinion.


Mr. Red, my point (although somewhat overbearing) was, that if you are going to discuss the seriousness of how we perceive each other then in my opinion you should not come back with “Baby got Back”.

The appreciation of the Black Women is a joy to behold, and hold, Her defined figure is a wonderful gift to the Blackman; but, we must be careful not to exploit that beauty and realize that it is not an advertisement for public scrutiny or to prove whose bottom is bigger or better than the other.

Our Women, are our Queens, past, present, and future; they are our Mothers, Daughters, Sisters, Wives, and Friends.



I know I am probably too old to conform to today’s way of thinking, but then again I have been with my wife for the past 50 years, and when I look at her today I still see that wonderful Lady that has walked beside me every step of the way, thru my life energizing me with Her Love. I look into Her eyes, and I still that pool of strength that has helped me grow as a man, my thirst for her is still quenched by Her smile and a tender kiss. I am mesmerized by the way She walks towards me Her dress flowing beneath the hollow of Her thighs like running water and I am grateful that I am the fountain, that receives that gift, and when She walks away it’s like music a tune that is played just for me.

You see I have taken time to see all of Her and I am thankful that her Gift was given to me and that She chose me to be Hers.



By the very nature of the responses to your post, I feel that I owe you Mr. Red an apology for I am beginning to realize that my thoughts might be an outdated way of seeing, and where I might have seen danger and disrespect might have been just a mirage, for youth has time, and age has its experience.



To some I might seem a bit tight and rigid in my responses to various posts, but it is only because of what I have seen in my time, in addition to those unrecorded pieces of history that have not reflected the abuses that our women have suffered. Within the history of this country, our women have been viewed as sexual objects, their strength of character, and dedication to family, has never been fully recognized or appreciated.

Brotha Wolf said...

I think you're all right. You all made good points.

I think his racial pride is keeping him from openly dating a black woman, and he would rather fuck them in private.

Ankhesen Mié said...

~ When I see an attractive woman, my body reacts. It is what it is.

~ I think his racial pride is keeping him from openly dating a black woman, and he would rather fuck them in private.


*nods* I've always said "preference" was the racist mot du jour.

Dirty Red said...

Ankhesen,

Yeah...I think you are right..I just wish that racist White people would come out the damn closet. Let people know how you feel..Stop being scared...

Angel,
Yeah...But we do have a lot of brothers here that do not date sisters..I say 5 out of every ten.

Reggie,
Women. What would we do without them?

Mr. Black,
Yo do not owe me an apology. The reason I write this blog is to get people's opinions. I may not fully understand your position, or agree with it...but so? This is how I learn. My mind is open. If all I wanted to do was hear people agree with the way I think, this little site of mine would be private and I would pick and choose who I wanted here just so I could get that praise. But that ain't how I get down good sir.. So keep giving me a little something something to think about besides my thoughts on shit. I appreciate you for that.

Wolf,
Yep my thoughts exactly.

Reggie said...

A whole helluvalot of jerking off probably Dirty Red.

BigmacInPittsburgh said...

You heard right Red!

the mommy said...

I'm not a man, so I don't know how to explain why this man said what he said...but I've heard other white men say it also.

It's always been curious to me, too. I will tell you how I interpret this statement though. I think he's saying that he's scared. He has bought into a stereotype and doesn't want to be associated with it. And so to validate his low self esteem, he uses the example of other black men who also won't date black women.

Maybe I'm over analyzing this, because now that I think about it...I believe I just described exactly what racism is. Fear and ignorance.

Yep. You're right. Carry on.

the mommy said...

And oh my goodness...I just read Mr. Black's comment!

Sir, you have a beautiful, lovely gift for words!

BlackBeauty said...

He is saying that he is not attracted to black women!

What is it that you don't understand?

Many people, men and women are not attracted to certain people. I know women who are not attracted to Asian men, white men who are not attracted to white women (their own woman), black men and women who are not attracted to black men or women, black men and women who are not attracted to white women or white men!

Your problem is that basically your thought process stems from an inferior mind-set!

Elevate your thinking~